Why Some Men Just Don't Get It

"$kaycog" (skaycog) 04/11/2016 at 15:50 • Filed to: Oldie

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“Don’t try to fix it. I just need you to listen.”

OPPOsaurus WRX > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:57

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why do i feel like i’m going to be living this in about half an hour when I walk thru my front door

For Sweden > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:57

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This is me talking to a mechanic.

“Hi, I need new shocks and struts, can you give me a quote for parts and labor?”

“No, I really need to take the car for a drive, give it a full inspection, and talk to the other techs before I can say anything.”

“Sure, but how much would it be just for shocks and struts?”

“I can’t say.”

$kaycog > OPPOsaurus WRX 04/11/2016 at 15:58

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We are the way we are......................or something.

Nibby > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:58

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Jcarr > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:58

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I feel like I’ve had this conversation before....more than once.

pauljones > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:58

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We’re guys. We like to hammer things.

Nibby > pauljones 04/11/2016 at 15:59

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$kaycog > For Sweden 04/11/2016 at 15:59

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Frustration..............for you.

JustAnotherG6 > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 15:59

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· It took me* the longest time to figure this out.

*still struggle with it

$kaycog > Jcarr 04/11/2016 at 16:00

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And I’m sure you’ll have it many times more.

$kaycog > pauljones 04/11/2016 at 16:00

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You hit it right on the head!

$kaycog > JustAnotherG6 04/11/2016 at 16:01

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You’ll get it.

iSureWilll > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:02

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I hate not being able to fix it... Maybe I just like the claw hammer. Do I even know myself anymore?

Jcarr > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:02

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Xyl0c41n3 > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:03

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Ahahaha, so funny!

/s

Chris_K_F drives an FR-Slow > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:04

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This is the most accurate portrayal of the difference between how men and women deal with a situation where someone approaches them with a problem.

(I’ve been showing this video to people for years. Love it haha)

$kaycog > Chris_K_F drives an FR-Slow 04/11/2016 at 16:07

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You’re right.

JustAnotherG6 > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:10

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I dunno about that... 15 yr Wedding Anniversary coming up in June.

66671 - 200 [METRIC] my dash > pauljones 04/11/2016 at 16:10

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You’re talking about the nail right?

$kaycog > JustAnotherG6 04/11/2016 at 16:12

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Well then, maybe you’ll never “get” it.

#GoodForYou - 15Years!

Dru > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:15

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Which is...confusing?

$kaycog > Dru 04/11/2016 at 16:17

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Very much so.

deekster_caddy > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:22

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Hah. My wife and I have been together for 15 years and we were “observing” this weekend that we still can’t move a piece of furniture together. Any of my man friends we just pick it up and go... it’s not a lack of strength, it’s just a different approach!

Sir_Stig: and toxic masculinity ruins the party again. > Xyl0c41n3 04/11/2016 at 16:34

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I don’t think it’s a gender specific thing, lots of people in general just want a sounding board to rail against.

hangus77 > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:36

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“Complaining about a problem without providing a solution is whining.” - says all men.

Tekamul > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:36

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Nope.

I’m a guy and an engineer. My entire existence is to fix problems in less time than it actually should take. Two words in, I’d have the head of that nail between my knuckles, and a foot on her shoulder.

If you really want to just talk, find someone with nothing to do. I’ve got a list longer than my arm.

$kaycog > deekster_caddy 04/11/2016 at 16:36

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I think that’s how it usually goes.

Sneaky Pete > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:38

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Drive the nail in all the way. Problem fixed. More money for car parts.

DrJohannVegas > Tekamul 04/11/2016 at 16:39

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And yet you bless us with your insights unbidden.

$kaycog > Sneaky Pete 04/11/2016 at 16:39

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Whahaha!

Tekamul > DrJohannVegas 04/11/2016 at 16:41

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Yeah, posting in an off topic forum of which I’m a member qualifies as a gold leaf encrusted invitation.

Xyl0c41n3 > Sir_Stig: and toxic masculinity ruins the party again. 04/11/2016 at 16:43

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You don’t think it’s gender specific? It reinforces gender stereotypes wherein women are irrational and blinded by their emotions while men are just helpful and misunderstood.

Frank Grimes > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 16:46

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At this time I relate more to the woman. People think life decisions are so simple and be all “well just do this...”

EL_ULY > For Sweden 04/11/2016 at 16:50

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eBay

Sir_Stig: and toxic masculinity ruins the party again. > Xyl0c41n3 04/11/2016 at 17:00

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I think this example is gender specific, but not the phenomenon.

EDIT: I should probably add that it is me who usually in the woman in this case, and that my wife rarely if ever behaves like this.

$kaycog > Frank Grimes 04/11/2016 at 17:02

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Indeed.

Xyl0c41n3 > Sir_Stig: and toxic masculinity ruins the party again. 04/11/2016 at 17:06

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Heh. I think I tend to be a little bit of both at times. Sometimes I just want to vent and am not looking for advice, other times, I just want to do something to help fix someone else’s issue.

Sir_Stig: and toxic masculinity ruins the party again. > Xyl0c41n3 04/11/2016 at 17:14

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I’m usually about split as well.

NJAnon > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 17:22

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A simplified example, but yeah we get it. Now I can’t say that all my fellow dOOds care to listen as some friends I know give their girlfriends time limits.

One friend says he told his girlfriend to just start up a talk show if she wants to find people to listen. kinda harsh but still funny? :-}

Funktheduck > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 17:39

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I know this is true but my nature doesn't allow me to not offer a solution if I can think of one.

pauljones > Xyl0c41n3 04/11/2016 at 17:45

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I really don’t see that here. It can just as easily be interpreted as reinforcing the gender stereotype that men are blundering idiots incapable of understanding basic concepts.

Personally, I didn’t perceive the above as being either a reinforcement of a negative male stereotype or a negative female stereotype. Rather, I perceived it as a satire of one of many different aspects of how different people think differently.

$kaycog > Funktheduck 04/11/2016 at 17:46

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That is so true.

pauljones > DrJohannVegas 04/11/2016 at 17:52

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Just as I chime in, unbidden, with commentary on posts around Oppositelock. Unless the post or comment specifically addresses a given individual, all of our inputs are unbidden.

You don’t have to like someone or what they say to be able to ignore them, blow them off, and not let them have a shit lick of influence on your day. In fact, not liking someone or what they say actually makes it a hell of a lot easier to ignore them.

DrJohannVegas > pauljones 04/11/2016 at 17:58

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I see the irony was lost on everyone, then. Fair enough.

DrJohannVegas > pauljones 04/11/2016 at 18:02

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Read the video description. It’s meant to be a gender thing. Let us dispel with this fiction that the video doesn’t know exactly what it’s doing.

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 18:19

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Then you have kids and never talk, it’s all hand signals and stuff.

$kaycog > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 04/11/2016 at 18:20

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That’s about right!

ESSSIX GmbH - Accountant/Wagon Thumper > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 18:39

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They covered this in modern family, much more explicitly.

But the nail was comical.

$kaycog > ESSSIX GmbH - Accountant/Wagon Thumper 04/11/2016 at 18:43

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Truth!

Tekamul > Xyl0c41n3 04/11/2016 at 18:59

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Speaking of stereotypes......

Xyl0c41n3 > Tekamul 04/11/2016 at 19:18

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Did you have something to say to me or are you just going to pretend to be clever with the elipsis?

WhiskeyGolf > Tekamul 04/11/2016 at 19:22

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Ah yes, the plight of the engineer. I’m with you in the trenches!

Xyl0c41n3 > For Sweden 04/11/2016 at 19:27

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My frustration with my dealership after leaving it with them for two days (one of which it just sat in the lot) to address recall repairs, including one on the transmission:

Me, to my dad: How did they get all that work done in one day?

Dad: I don’t know. They just called and said your car was ready, so I picked it up.

Me, in person, to the service tech later that week: how did you address the recall on the transmission? Did you look at it or drive the car or anything?

Service tech: no. We don’t go looking for problems in people’s cars.

Me, after looking at him in dumbfounded shock for five full seconds: when will your transmission guy be back in the shop? Because I’m bringing my car back and you’re looking at the transmission.

Tech: Wednesday. But in the meantime, here’s some literature that explains how dual clutch transmissions work...

Me: -___- I’ll have the car here at 8 a.m. Wednesday.

Turns out, just as I knew (and had also told them), the clutch is bad. Three months later, and it’s FINALLY in. I’ll be dropping my car back off this week for them to replace it.

TheHondaBro > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 22:13

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I wondered why this had an unusual number of views. Then I understood.

My point is, I just woke up from a nap and I’d rather post cat gifs than bicker.

Ssfancyfresh > $kaycog 04/11/2016 at 22:14

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This is me and my wife. It’s the number 1 thing we fight about.

Doesn’t help that I’m an engineer. It’s my frickin job to solve problems!

$kaycog > TheHondaBro 04/11/2016 at 22:39

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Me too! I’m outta here!

#Goodnight

$kaycog > Ssfancyfresh 04/11/2016 at 22:40

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I do understand both sides.

Deal Killer - Powered by Focus > TheHondaBro 04/11/2016 at 23:04

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Jalop Cat Wiggle gif.

Smallbear wants a modern Syclone, local Maple Leafs spammer > $kaycog 04/13/2016 at 13:35

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I don’t actually think this kind of thing is tied to one gender, no matter how often that shoe fits. I’ve been on both sides of that fence.

Anyway, the real point of this comment—I think this video should be mandatory viewing for customer service reps/salespeople. So many times, when a customer calls to complain, they just talk themselves out and are able to work with us again. If they don’t ask how you plan to fix it, and it isn’t implied, don’t bring it up.

ttyymmnn > $kaycog 04/18/2016 at 10:36

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Brilliant. Just, brilliant.

$kaycog > ttyymmnn 04/18/2016 at 13:01

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It really is.

TheLateApx > $kaycog 04/18/2016 at 17:56

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That was painful to watch. No pun intended, honestly.